Sometimes it’s not that I am selfish and I don’t want to lend my stuff to people, but it’s always damn difficult to get my stuff back.
Most of the time, it’s money.
But for the past week, I’ve had trouble getting people to return my capo, my torch light and even my pen.
Yet, if I refuse to lend, then people will give me that kind of face, somehow saying “As if I will purposely/intentionally/deliberately refuse to return you.”
The truth is, after I lend you, it’s always damn difficult to get my stuff back. Especially when I need them urgently.
Not that I am sore and anal about it, but people just seem to have their way around no matter how unreasonable they may seem. They pick on the slightest things to take it out on you, yet still demand an apology from you because they, the righteous people who still owe you your stuff, are never in the wrong.
Whereas, we, the lenders, are always in the wrong because we are not tactful enough when we ask them to return our stuff.
I remember once, Benjamin had a hard time getting his “friend” to return him money.
PM 11:57:52 Benjamin: XXX –> so u msn me only for the money?
PM 11:58:02 Benjamin: me –> yes
PM 11:58:21 Benjamin: XXX –> wow okay. thats how much our friendship is worth
we’re not even on talking terms now
PM 11:58:47 Benjamin: me –> well, if u wish to put that way.
u mentioned before that u will give back in feb, u did not and asked for more time.
i did not push u for it
PM 11:59:35 Benjamin: etc etc etc
PM 11:59:43 Benjamin: XXX –> well, that is no what i perceive
that is what you’re implying
u don’t treasure friendships
AM 12:01:09 Benjamin: XXX –> your heck care attitude gets you nowhere
u can’t even see if a person is trying to salvage a friendship
AM 12:01:28 Benjamin: XXX –> oh yes
you do not have to wait till end of april for the serverance money
you will get it asap
AM 12:01:53 Benjamin: owe ppl $$, yet still give attitude problem
AM 12:02:15 Benjamin: not a friend that i want to continue knowing
AM 12:03:13 Benjamin: let him talk whatever he wants
AM 12:03:20 Benjamin: no point wasting my saliva
AM 12:03:33 Benjamin: buay pai sei one
AM 12:03:43 Benjamin: still want to talk about friendship
AM 12:04:15 Benjamin: if u remember the friendship, u sld have given updates whether when are u able to give back the money
AM 12:04:25 Benjamin: not till when i need to prompt u
I remember another incident when I lent my book to a friend. Even though I didn’t need it back urgently, she returned it back to me promptly. Inside the book, she attached a post-it note, apologizing for “hogging the book for so long.” That’s basic courtesy. If you don’t need it anymore, return it. Not hog it until the owner tells you to return it.
I lent my NRIC card to a friend who needed it to collect something for himself. He was asking me every other day if I am available for him to return my NRIC back to me even though I already told him that I didn’t need it back urgently. He told me that he didn’t want to hold on to my belongings. In other words, he didn’t want to hold on to what does not belong to him.
A friend needed help because his pay was kinda delayed and he needed some money. I lent him $50 after I asked when would he be able to return. True to his word, he asked me for my account number and transferred my money back to me when it was due.
You get what I mean. From the bottom of my heart, I appreciate those who return my stuff promptly and I will not hesitate to help you again whenever you need.
But to the rest, thanks for being so irresponsible.
You’re exactly like what Benjamin described, buay paiseh one.