I have been talking to quite a number of people recently and with Valentine’s Day around the corner, they all seem to have relationship problems.
I can be a good listening ear but most of the time, I am not very good at giving advice.
I realized one thing about these people is that they all have one thing in common. They are in love and they don’t mind getting hurt.
I mean, even when they have come to the point where they realized that there is nothing else for them to hold on to, there is no prospect in the relationship, it has come to a point where the relationship can no longer progress, or when problems have escalated to a level that has overwhelmed them, these people still refuse to let go and persevere in holding on.
What’s the point? I don’t see a point in holding on to something that has no future. If a investment is giving bad returns, you are making a loss. Why do people want to make such sacrifices?
Perhaps it is easy for me to judge since I, as an outsider and neutral party, can think with my brain whereas the people involved think with their hearts. They can grasp no logic and they risk getting themselves hurt.
And most of the time, if not, all the time, they do end up getting hurt.
I think I have arrived at a stage where I know that if I want to be truly happy, there is no such thing as sacrificing for the one I love. To be truly happy, I have to do things for myself.
In other words, be selfish.